Frequently Asked Questions

"Think not of the grave. To us, it is past and forgotten. To you, it is but an entrance into a new and more glorious existence. Oft in the silent night, when the busy toils of life are hushed and the mind is at rest from its cares, we hover around and watch over you, happy, indeed, at being able then to impress our presence upon you."
(A spirit communication through medium Daniel D. Home, May 1852)

1. How long should I wait after my loved one has passed to get a reading?

2. What can I expect during my reading?

3. What if I only want guidance?

4. Do spirits tell you scary things about my life or do you get negative or evil spirits?

5. I've had an in-person reading done before. HOW is it possible to do my reading by phone, and is it the same as an in-person reading?

6. I'm looking for a specific person to connect with. Will they come through?

7. Do you guarantee to make a connection? And what if you don't connect with anyone? Do I get my money back?

8. How do I know my loved ones are around me? And can I connect with them myself?

9. I think I have a "ghost" in my home. How do I get rid of it???

10. Can I purchase a reading as a gift for someone? How does it work?

How long should I wait after my loved one has passed to get a reading?
I recommend waiting at least three months after your loved one has passed to contact my office (or any medium) for a reading. This is because it's imperative that you take some time to grieve (mediumship should never take the place of grief counseling). Your loved one in spirit has adjusted and is fine, but it's important that you have accepted their passing to a point. Once acceptance has taken place and you feel strong enough emotionally, it is a better time to make the communication with a passed loved one.

What can I expect during my reading?
A medium reading is where a psychic medium will blend their energy and connect with the spirits of those who have passed into the spirit realm and are connected to or through you. These "spirit people" will be family or friends or even a friend's spirit person (then, if you can, you would need to pass along the message to that person). Spirit animals may come through as well for you (please see below). Mediums connect with spirit energy in different ways, but I receive my information from spirit through symbols I *see* (clairvoyance), *hearing* words, names or sounds (clairaudience) or *feeling* (clairscentience). Spirit will give identifying information such as sometimes names, what relation they are to you, how they passed or what health issues they dealt with, their personality, memories, important months/dates, etc., along with other identifying pieces of information. At this point (after they have been recognized), we will then ask what their message is for you (or for someone else) and why they're here.

Mediumship is NOT fortune telling, it's about proving the continuity of life. Though I have a strong intuitive ability that presents itself during each reading, keep in mind that my work is mainly about linking to the other side for evidence and messages from loved ones who have passed over.

What if I only want guidance?
Mediums must be psychic to be mediums; therefore, when I connect to the spirit realm, I blend with YOUR energy first and then to spirit. During this process, I can ask for information about you from my guide and spiritual teacher. This is called an intuitive consultation. When working with my guide, I will ask what you may need to focus on at this time of your life, what is blocking your progress, what is helping, etc., and then if you have questions, you may of course ask. This being said, they do NOT always give us the answers to the questions we ask, and may bring through other information they feel is more important instead. This is NOT fortune telling. They do not wish to interfere with our learning process and will NOT tell you what to, or not to do - you always have free will here and need to learn your own lessons on this earth plane.

Do the spirits tell you scary things about my life, or do you get negative or evil spirits?
No. The spirit people who come in for you have crossed over into the light, are people you've known (or haven't known), and who want only to let you know they are around, ok and aware of things in your life. They do not give me "scary" or negative messages for you. They may very well caution you about things or let you know they think it may be a good idea to focus on this or that, but they do not pass on life-altering information or bring scary messages in. And, no, they don't tell me when you are going to pass away, current lotto numbers or who you are going to marry either. They link with me to give you the evidence and "essence" of themselves.

As far as having negative or evil spirits come through, the thing to remember is the law of vibration - LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE. I connect with my Divine energy first, and then my spirit guides, and I ask with every single reading that it's done for the highest good of all - for my client, for their spirit people, and for myself. This work does not scare me, and I have nothing to be afraid of... nor should you. If you are a good and loving person, you will attract the same to you whether that be in the physical world or spiritual. Also as far as the energies who come in, my guides filter out anyone with any negative intent, so everyone is surrounded in love and is safe during readings.

I've had an in-person reading done before. HOW is it possible to do my reading by phone, and is it the same as an in-person reading?
Many clients often ask this. Spirit is pure energy; it moves everywhere and very fast. If they can or want to talk to you, they will, and are right there with you during the reading whether I am there in person with you, on the phone, or typing to you on the Internet. 75% of my readings are done on the phone with wonderful results. Please note that I do many radio shows where I read for clients over the phone, and also note the article about my phone reading with a reporter from the Toronto Star (over the phone) here: Media.

I'm looking for a specific person to connect with. Can you guarantee they will come through?
This is a big question! There are no guarantees I can connect with that one particular person you may be looking for, or even you for that matter, but we certainly will ask for them by their name or relationship to you (please do not write me with any information about the loved one you are seeking to connect with other than this. The less I know about them, the better the reading is for you. Let them tell you the identifying info, so you know it's truly them). Normally, the loved one you wish to hear from is available and will come through; however, the best thing to do during your reading is to be as open as you can to anyone who comes through. Sometimes those you don't expect, rather than those you've hoped for, come instead. Anyone passed may come through whether you knew them or even liked them, and sometimes may even bring through the spirit energy you were looking for! I do believe these spirit has their own reasons for coming in - whether that is to bring someone else in for you or give you messages as well. Spirit is in control and there are very specific reasons others may need to give messages rather than the one person you want to hear from.

Among the reasons your specific loved one may not show are:

• they may not have the energy or may not know how to lower their vibration level to my level yet,
• they may not be ready to make an appearance back on the earth plane yet,
• they may feel they need to "yield" to someone else who needs to get their message out,
• you may not be ready for their message even if you think you are,

There are many variables (mostly energy related) when connecting to spirit, and things happen when they are supposed to. The best thing to do during a medium reading is to be open to anyone coming through, and take the overall message, which is that they have transcended from physical to spirit and are around you, and also doing their thing there.

Do you guarantee to make a connection? And what if you don't connect with anyone? Do I get my money back?
No one can guarantee they can make a connection with you or your spirit people. Normally, I connect well with spirit as they see it as an opportunity to contact you (or even someone else connected to, or through YOU). But very rarely, I will just not be able to connect with your energy. It takes an immense amount of energy for a spirit to make a connection - they have to lower their vibrational level, and I have to raise mine to theirs. We meet in the middle and all energies must be just right with no interruptions.

In the rare instance you do not recognize any spirit coming through in the first 10 minutes of your reading, your fee will be refunded, or another appointment will be set up to try again. This policy is for individual readings only, and pre-session guidelines sent prior to the reading must be complied with (i.e., if you have children, please make sure someone else is taking care of them and you are uninterrupted, etc.). This policy is in place as there are different reasons a connection may not be made, and I want you to feel relaxed in choosing me to do your reading.

How do I know my loved ones are around me? And can I connect with them myself?
Our spirit people and animals are around us often and communicate to us in various ways. Many clients claim they can smell something that reminds them of their loved ones or they see quick manifestations, hear their voice, etc.. These are excellent ways for spirit to say hello and let you know they're around. They also can easily manipulate electrical things since they are electromagnetic energy. Your lights may flicker or dim, your stereo may go on by itself, your TV may go up in volume, etc. It's just their way normally to say hello. They also show themselves as spirit lights or orbs of light that may be caught on film or video, or that you may see zip by around you. Many of my clients see a light or image in their peripheral vision only to find there's nothing there by the time they turn. No, they aren't crazy! Again, it can be your spirit people or animals flitting by saying hello. They are also normally connecting with you when you suddenly think of them out of the blue. If you're doing something that is not in any way connected to your loved one and they suddenly pop in your mind it can certainly be your loved one saying hello as well. Other clients actually see their loved ones appear, which is full or partial manifestation, and they connect with them through dreams as well. There are numerous ways spirit will connect with us here, and when we notice they are doing just that, it's important to acknowledge it by saying "Hi, I know it's you!" and not brush it off to our imagination.

Meditation is also a wonderful way to connect with your loved ones and spirit guides and key in learning mediumship. Go to that place of peace in your mind. You don't have to meditate for an hour a day - it's not about time, it's more about consistency. Try to quiet your mind for even 15 minutes a day, or 15 minutes every other day to start. Maybe work up to 30 minutes if you feel you can. Mostly, try to be consistent in the time of day or day so spirit can expect you! You will start to be able to differentiate between what you think your mind or imagination is coming up with, and spirit messages.

If you are interested in learning the art of mediumship and are in the Northern Virginia area, please click HERE.

I think I have a "ghost" in my home. How do I get rid of it???
Well, first of all, make sure it IS a "ghost". You should always rule out the physical before deeming something spirit activity. If you do feel you have an active home, know the difference between "ghosts" and typical spirit people connections (ADC's or After Death Communications). Ghosts are earthbound entities and hang around this plane for various reasons. Sometimes, however, our loved ones like to say hello as well by trying to get our attention, but if we aren't used to lights dimming or brightening or doing odd things, or TV's going on or off by themselves, or something falling off a table, it may scare us! We may think it's a ghost and not attribute the "activity" to our spirit people or animals. If things are happening in your home that SCARE you, simply tell them to stop very matter of factly (they can feed off fear), and it should stop. Especially if it's a loved one in spirit. Our spirit people or animals don't wish to scare us. But, if it does not stop and gets worse, that's when you break out the dried sage (found in bundles in your neighborhood metaphysical store) and spiritually cleanse your home . Or... you can call me if you are in the Northern Virginia area.

Can I purchase a reading as a gift for someone? How does it work?
Yes! Gift certificates are available in 60 minute as well as 30 minute sessions. Gift certificates may be mailed via USPS regular mail directly to your recipient, or e-mailed. They must be used within 6 months. All information from this website applies for this reading just as it would a purchased reading. To purchase a gift certificate, please click here.